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I can't handle rejection — rejection sensitivity (RSD)
Rejection and criticism hit you disproportionately hard, and you constantly feel like people are mad at you.
RSD is an intense pain around rejection — real, though not an official criterion. Below — how to not react on autopilot (the 24h rule), and ask for specifics instead of assuming the worst.
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After sex, stay — and don't decline with a bare 'no' (RSD)
For RSD: after sex don't abruptly get up and leave, and don't decline an initiation with a bare 'no' — explain why. An ADHD person experiences sudden rejection/abandonment far more intensely, which escalates to rows and breakups.
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It's not me, it's the monkey brain (three-brains technique)
When RSD, shame, or an unhealthy impulse hits, attribute the feeling to 'little you' or your 'monkey brain', not to yourself: 'that's not me, that's my monkey brain wanting the snack / feeling rejected'. It's a cognitive trick that separates the reactive part from your adult self so you can treat it with compassion. Key: keep it SIMPLE.
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The 24-hour rule for an RSD hit
There's no cure for an RSD hit, but space works: name it ('this is RSD'), say nothing in the moment, and defer the reaction — if it still matters in a day, then raise it.
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Ask for the praise first (feedback sandwich)
To make criticism bearable with RSD, ask explicitly: 'first tell me what you love, let me dwell in it, then the notes' — or sandwich the critique between two praises.
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Observer mode (view yourself from a bird's eye)
Instead of being flooded by emotion (e.g. RSD), deliberately step away from yourself and observe yourself as an outsider. It's a skill, not a trait — and it's trained mainly through the body (EMDR, hypnotherapy, breath), not talk alone.
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Detective technique: hunt the catalyst and test RSD from the outside
On a blow-up, hunt for 'the seagull that pushed you off the cliff' — what happened EARLIER, not the last visible thing. And on RSD catastrophizing ('I'll get fired') run the third-person test: 'if a colleague sent that email, would they get fired?'.
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Ask for the details before you spiral
When someone says 'let's talk later', ask for the details now ('I know I'll overthink this — just give me clarity'), because your imagined version can be 50x worse than reality.
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