Bank reassurance in advance against RSD

When overstimulation makes you snap, RSD supplies an instant verdict — you’re unloved, you’re a horrible person — and in that state you have nothing to weigh it against. Banking reassurance ahead of time supplies the counter-evidence. The move is to ask the people close to you to tell you, frequently and without being prompted, that they love or like or care about you, and to commit to doing the same for them. Then, when a heated or overwhelmed moment hits, you have recent, concrete proof to pull against the RSD narrative: ‘no, they do love me — that was just overstimulation,’ rather than reading the snap as evidence you’re unlovable. Two things make this workable. It has to be proactive and regular, because reassurance you have to fish for in the moment doesn’t land the same way as reassurance already in the bank. And it’s worth naming it explicitly as a need — like needing an agenda before a meeting — even though asking can feel needy or guilt-laden; framing it as a stated requirement, offered reciprocally, makes it a normal accommodation rather than a demand.