ADHD ↔ autism opposing pull

ADHD pulls toward what’s immediate, novel and exciting — the mere THOUGHT of doing it gives an instant hook, so you impulsively launch (boredom and delay aversion, not an unusually strong dopamine hit from the thought itself). ADHD says ‘I’m bored, I’ll go do it’. But the actual effort and side effects of the situation (a busy restaurant, bright lights, noise) trigger autistic overwhelm and aversion, often within the hour. The result: excitement flips to aversion before or just after arriving, and the person ‘hates’ something they wanted moments earlier. It isn’t flakiness — it’s two systems pulling opposite ways. Naming the pattern lets you plan with a buffer (less sensory exposure, an exit route, headphones) instead of blaming yourself for ‘changing your mind’.