Method

Practice communication when there's no conflict

Don't communicate only mid-argument — sit down calmly (e.g. over tea) and ask each other 'how could I improve this relationship for you?'. Communication triggered only by grievance turns aggressive.

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If relationship talks only happen once something already hurts, they turn into aggression and defensiveness. Practice communication when you don’t need it: schedule a low-stakes chat over tea and ask each other ‘how could I improve this for you? what would make this better for you?’. A conversation in a calm moment stays non-defensive and builds the relationship incrementally, instead of only fixing it in a crisis. It’s also rehearsal: a couple that can talk when relaxed talks more easily when things get hard.

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What the research says

Scientific grade verified against the literature. No entries = no direct studies (graded from mechanism/experience).

What the grade means

A A — strongest evidence: meta-analyses or RCTs directly confirm it works (or, for diagnostic tools, strong validation of accuracy).

B B — good evidence: a single RCT, or a strong mechanism with supporting studies.

C C — weak / preliminary: a plausible mechanism, but few direct, controlled tests.

D D — no evidence: theory or isolated anecdotes, no studies.

Applies to: ADHD Autism AuDHD